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This section covers the range of Thai girls, from mainstream Thai ladies to bargirls and other prostitutes, in an attempt to help all kinds of people.
Notably, while I myself have always lived and mostly hung out in mainstream outer suburbs of Bangkok (except the first 5 months I was here), rather than the tourist and expat entertainment centers, I know both realms quite well, and I nonetheless do not judge bargirls or that line of professional services as "bad" in general, nor do I believe that what's right for myself is "right" for all guys, tourist or expat. Like most Thai people, I don't judge either the Thai ladies who take up that occupation or the expats/tourists who choose it. There are advantages and disadvantages to both, and it's a matter of your lifestyle, situation and values.
In any case, it is important to see the differences between the foreigner-oriented subculture areas and mainstream Thai ladies. While I see the differences in most ladies right away, most guys I go around with are obviously unattuned, usually guys whose "formative experiences" with Thai ladies were in the prostitution zones.
A lot depends on one's "born in" environment, alternatives, age, genetic appearance, upbringing, lifestyle, preferences, values, interests, etc. -- and whether you want one longterm mate, or just casual acquaintances. Whichever serves you best. It's your free will, and everyone's different. Thailand is a relatively free, live-and-let-live, relatively nonjudgemental and understanding country. ("Sorry if my karma ran over your dogma.".)
As long as one is not harming others, and has only good intentions, then live and let live.
Of course, exceptions apply, such as bargirls scamming guys for money, guys leaving their children & wife to come live in a dream house with their bargirl who will eventually cheat on him or kick him out when he runs out of money, and various other common behaviors and unfolding situations. It is amazing to see so many guys blinded by love/lust, tricked by instinct to follow happy emotions and lose reason, and just totally lose the plot in their lives, ipso nutso.
It is intended that this guide will help you to positively understanding Thai culture and its different "sectors", so that you can find the best match(es) for what is best for your life. It is important that you understand the differences between foreign culture and Thai subcultures as regards girlfriends and acquaintances.
On the one hand, there are mainstream Thai ladies who are treated like bargirls and/or otherwise misunderstood, because so much of the literature on the internet about Thai girlfriends is written by foreign guys who have little or no real experience outside the prostitution realm, thereby leading other guys to ride roughshod over good Thai ladies.
On the other hand, the most common negative experiences of foreigners are due to their own unrealistic expectations of some "professional" bargirls, whereby the foreign man finds a young, beautiful, and lovely (by Western standards) Thai lady and believes they can change and/or control them into becoming the dedicated girlfriend or trophy wife of their dreams. In my opinion, the "fault" is often the man's, not the lady's, though it varies from one failed relationship to another, even if the "fault" is more or less a lack of understanding by the man.
Commonly, there is danger of outright scams to get the foreigner guy's money, whereby the lady is clearly the guilty one, of being grossly dishonest and tricky, such as agreeing to a monogamous relationship while behaving otherwise, and just after the guy's money, often careless of the havoc they wreak on the guy's life, children, wife, and business responsibilities.
Bad news travels much further than good news, and it's my observation that a lot of the negative internet traffic is out of proportion with the positive side of overall reality. Surely, most happy guys are not out on bargirl forums, but I think it's also just the nature of the internet and news in general to be negative and sensational, keeping peoples interest and juices going.
It is a fact that many ex-bargirls become faithful and good wives. I know of many. However, the majority do not, and trickery is common.
A mainstream Thai lady is usually monogamous by her very nature. However, a mainstream lady might not be a good match to you. You might want multiple girlfriends instead, enjoy some diversity and freedom, not care about the Thai family life, bored and restless with the Thai mindset while headstrong in your own ways and routines, etc.
Nevertheless, the pitfalls of relationships with Thai ladies are not limited to bargirls, as "mainstream" Thai ladies vary as much as mainstream ladies do in your own country. Most mainstream Thai ladies are faithful, and money's usually not a big issue, but not always, and there are a lot of other things to consider in both friendship and mating relationships.

For a thai lady to succeed in conning a man, the man must let himself be conned. It's a 2 way thing. It takes 2 hands to clap.
Cannot blame the man, neither the woman.

I ever ask my friend 1 thing why he keep giving money to this thai girl he love.
He tell me 1 very simple logic. He says when the thai girl ask money from you, its a very good way to see whether she loves you or just your money.
If you don't give her, she will think you are not sincere. When you give her and she use it on other things or don't return you, it means she is cheating you. Then if you are no longer with this girl, you wouldn't feel a single sense of guilt.

He told me a thai girl hatches a plan to get money because she needs the money. The man lets his kindness rule over rational thinking because of love.
If we look at the situation, we can say the man is stupid, but love is blind. And if you see how scheming the girl is, you will see her real colours. Isn't this better than both party getting married then later on see true colours?

Losing money is temporary as you can earn it back. Losing your heart will be worst as you can never find it back. Words of wisdom.

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